The Familiar Pull: Unravelling the Psychology of Returning to Unhealthy Patterns

Have you ever pondered over why certain individuals find themselves repeatedly returning to relationships or family environments that have been hurtful and abusive? It's a perplexing phenomenon – the way people tend to fall back into patterns, even when those patterns aren't conducive to their well-being. Why is it that we're drawn towards what's familiar, even if it's not safe or positive?

Much like scared animals returning to their homes, humans also seem to gravitate towards familiar territory, even if it's not in their best interest. Take, for instance, patients who have grown up in abusive families – some continue to return to these harmful environments despite knowing the pain that awaits them.

A study, that sheds light on this curious behaviour. Researchers conducted experiments involving mice, and the results were truly eye-opening. They raised two groups of mice in different environments – one in a warm nest with ample food and the other in a noisy nest with limited resources. Later, they placed both groups of mice in a neutral space to explore. When the researchers introduced a sudden loud sound, the response was intriguing. The mice raised in the warm, abundant environment immediately scurried back to their nests, seeking comfort in the familiar. Similarly, the mice from the noisy, resource-scarce environment also rushed back to their nests, despite being in a different, less stressful situation. Those scared animals returned home.

So, why does this matter to us humans? It's all about patterns and our inclination towards the familiar. Just as these mice returned to their nests, many of us find ourselves drawn back to places, relationships, and situations that might not be good for us. This wired behavior prompts us to question: Why do we opt for the known, even if it's not the safest or most nurturing choice?

This is where therapy comes into play. It's a transformative tool that empowers us to break free from these patterns. Therapy provides a safe space to examine our behaviors, understand our motivations, and learn healthier ways to cope. By unraveling the intricate web of our tendencies, we can make informed decisions, distance ourselves from unhealthy cycles, and create positive change.

Just as animals find solace in the familiar, you have the ability to seek refuge in your own well-being. Therapy offers the guidance and tools needed to navigate away from damaging patterns and towards a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Don't allow your pre-existing patterns to dictate your life. Take charge of it today. Get in touch with us to explore how you can work on changing your existing patterns & establish new ones that can help you grow as a person.